Explaining the disclaimer: "We don't bote(That doesn't include all of us)"

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Explaining the disclaimer: "We don't bote(That doesn't include all of us)"

Post by Hazarath on Thu Nov 11, 2010 8:52 pm

http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Assertive-Without-Being-Arrogant

Read the first paragraph:
"Assertiveness is a very important means for communicating your needs in a way that is fair to both yourself and to others. Unfortunately, for some insecure people, assertive people are sometimes threatening and it is easier to label them as arrogant, selfish, or unhelpful when they receive the answer "no" or when boundaries are made clear by the assertive person. In particular, those with manipulation, neediness, and trust problems can see assertive responses as undermining their own agendas and will seek to respond with negative critiques of an assertive person's behavior. This is where it can get a little tricky for the newly assertive convert but it's no reason to suddenly start worrying that you are arrogant!"

This explains SO MUCH about the Nexon community Neutral

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Re: Explaining the disclaimer: "We don't bote(That doesn't include all of us)"

Post by mrfarhan on Fri Nov 12, 2010 3:49 am

I don't have a problem with the people there tbh.

Sure people like RaptorJesus -.-, alan1996 and that indian girl who had liver cancer sometimes make lame replies to threads, most of them r cool Surprised

Assertive communication consists of sharing one's wants and needs honestly in a safe context. This context presumes mutual respect for one's boundaries. This includes the physical self, one's possessions and one's relationships. It also presumes a shared interest in the fulfillment of needs and wants through cooperation. Reciprocation fuels this shared pursuit of interest.

'Assertive communication of personal opinions, needs, and boundaries has been...conceptualized as the behavioral middle ground, lying between ineffective passive and aggressive responses'. Such communication 'emphasizes expressing feelings forthrightly, but in a way that will not spiral into aggression'.
If others' actions threaten one's boundaries, one communicates this to prevent escalation.

In contrast, "aggressive communication" judges, threatens, lies, breaks confidences, stonewalls, and violates others' boundaries.
At the opposite end of the dialectic is "passive communication". Victims may passively permit others to violate their boundaries. At a later time, they may come back and attack with a sense of impunity or righteous indignation.
Assertive communication attempts to transcend these extremes by appealing to the shared interest of all parties; 'focuses on the issue, not the person'. Aggressive and/or passive communication, on the other hand, may mark a relationship's end and reduce self-respect.


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Re: Explaining the disclaimer: "We don't bote(That doesn't include all of us)"

Post by (MI6) lolpierandom on Sat Nov 13, 2010 7:36 pm

Refer to my catchphrase:

"The Official Helpful Troll" < Also applies to Raptor

I troll idiots that don't get when to stop, but I help out mosta the time.

You shoulda seen me on the IJJI forums. I was on a rampage there, flaming all sortsa noobs.

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